After four years in limbo, Julie Sotffer finally got a straight answer from Brigham Young University. Because of her alleged code-breaking behavior on MTV's "The Real World" in 2000, the Mormon university does not want her back. Ever.

This was news to Stoffer, who was originally told by administration after appearing in the show that she was suspended for one year, but could re-enroll if she read a list of books, wrote papers and met with a variety of people in the Mormon community.

However, after four years passed and BYU still wasn't inviting her back, Stoffer demanded a solid answer.

"I told them if they were going to expel me, then to just go ahead and do so, but I needed to move on with my education," says Stoffer, 25. "Finally they told me I was 'too recognizable' and that I wasn't going to get back in. I was like, 'Dude, this is ridiculous.'"

Stoffer, who was studying business, says she plans to enroll in college again in a year or so. She also says she isn't soured on the religion based on her experience with BYU and still considers herself to be a Mormon.

"Brigham Young (University) is much more strict than the Mormon religion is," she says.

So, what else is going on in Julie Stoffer's real world these days?

Last fall, after living in California for a few years, Stoffer missed "cool air and family" and came back to Wisconsin for a week-long vacation. While visiting, she attended The Mormon Institute of Milwaukee and met Spencer (whose last name she won't share), a student at the Medical College of Wisconsin.

The couple instantly hit it off -- so well that she stayed in Milwaukee and plans to marry him in Provo, Utah this fall. They will later celebrate in Wisconsin with a reception sometime next year.

Because the Mormon religion forbids it, Stoffer and her fiancé will not live together before their wedding. Stoffer is in Delafield with her parents and says she and Spencer plan to live in Wauwatosa following their marriage. The couple will most likely move out of state next summer so Spencer can fulfill the residency requirements for his program.

Stoffer appeared on four MTV reality TV shows in the past four years, and currently, stars on a Canadian MTV show called "Electric Playground," which explores the technological side of the entertainment industry.

She will also appear during election time this fall on MTV's "Rock the Vote."

Plus, Stoffer continues to make appearances at college campuses and advise freshmen about living with roommates. "That's what 'Real World' is all about," she says.

Stoffer also crossed genres into the music industry. Although her punk band, The Bunkbed Incident, recently broke up, Stoffer, who plays drums, says she plans to start another band soon.

"It's just for fun," she says. "Everything's a lot of fun right now."